Sex in Lubbock.
"Strange. I don’t really know [what the sexual activity is in Lubbock]. I feel like, within a small town I am within an even smaller circle. One thing I noticed for sure was the evident lack of sexual education. I’m not talking among ethnic “minorities” or whatever, but among white college kids. In Chicago, I remember attending a poetry reading when I was 16 and they passed around a bowl of condoms. The vast majority of sexually active girls in high school and college were on birth control, and everyone had a condom in their wallet. Here, I’ve talked to so many girls whose partners don’t like, don’t remember, or don’t care to use protection, and this is probably why our STD rate is so high....One other thing, and I think this may have to do with the evangelical culture here: among a lot of the people I know, there's much more of an emphasis on serious relationships that dating, and fuck-buddies are really kind of a no-no. Even the non-religious girls I've talked to are surprised to hear me say I never want to get married (I don't believe in the institution) or that I am totally fine having sex outside of any definable relationship, or that I am totally fine fucking someone for a month and then getting over it (anyone who would do that is considered a WHORE!). It is simply a different mentality than the evangelical notion that sex belongs within monogamous relationships that should eventually lead to marriage."
"One night stands are necessary and important, often becoming a form of therapy when relationships (or anything else) goes bad. I've often found I need---or to be more accurate, fall into---one night stands when my life feels extremely fucked up. Sex with people I barely know is the best in those situations, because of the impossibility of feeling anything for the person---it's relaxing not to have a emotional commitment, of being shackled to someone because of you love them. Love can be a very painful quagmire."
"I would say Lubbock has an addiction to sex, but in saying that, I think the problem extends beyond Lubbock to the whole nation. America has a preoccupation with sex and an apathetic view of the education behind it. Lubbock, because it is a college town, provides a perfect microcosm of the attitude about sex in this country, but then again I may just be crazy. Also we just went through a rebirth of the 70's which might account for the free love that I heard so much about."
"I believe there are many haters, and people that do not understand what homosexuals really represent. However I also believe that the majority of people I know are very accepting of homosexuals, even the ones that are not necessarily supportive of gays. There are many people in my life that have been so kind to me and did not take my orientation into account. The community here in Lubbock is weird anyway, whether you are gay, straight, black, religious, whatever. Lubbock is weirder than Austin, I would say."
"[Sexual activity in Lubbock?] umm...a result of the boredom? Lubbock has one of the highest STD rates in the state, maybe the country, so it's obvious people sleep around and I'm pretty convinced it's because we have nothing better to do. But I do think people sleep around in they're own cliques. Mexicans, Greek, Theatre...etc. Occasionally these cliques might mix via one or two people, but not much."
"I would say that [sexual activity in Lubbock is] probably pretty routine, exploitative, and boring as hell. I don’t really know but I imagine people just fuck and never work on technique. Also, I think many people who fuck a lot find it hard to maintain friendships with those they fucked [over]. That’s a damn shame."
"I would describe the sexual activity in Lubbock as closeted. I find that a certain niche in Lubbock has no problems discussing sex or acting upon their desires, but predominantly sexual activity in Lubbock is ignored. As a teacher in a Lubbock High School I know that LISD only supports abstinence only education and that the model does not work. Teenagers regularly engage in sex and are often misinformed and/or are made to feel guilty about their sexuality by the adults in their lives. As a former college student I know that the early twenty to mid thirty somethings in Lubbock are very sexually active but also choose to not discuss their personal sex lives because they feel uncomfortable doing so."
"What sexual activity in Lubbock? If you know where I can find some… Please tell me."
"I think people are very quiet about the sexual activity in Lubbock. I mean, we hear the facts about STDs and pregnancy, and the rumors about other people's sexual escapades. But I think people (even the more liberal ones) are relatively quiet about the sexual activity in Lubbock."
"I don't believe Lubbock is any different that any other college town. Sex happens. I don't see what the big fuss is about knowing who is fucking who."
"I was dry humped by an underwear model once. I cried."
"One-night stands have been a large part of my sex life. Being in a relationship they were my only option outside of monogamy. Yet, my random acts of sexuality had nothing to do with my relationship. I rarely felt guilt for these dalliances, mainly because I felt I needed them. Now that my relationship is over, I am thankful for them in a certain way. Had I only had sex with one person for my entire life I would be terrified of venturing out. I now look forward to being able to have casual relationships with people that lie somewhere between committed relationship and one-night stand, however, its not like I would turn down a blow job in a club in Europe."