Lubbock's Gay Scene

"How would you describe the gay community in Lubbock? How would you describe the sexual activity that happens in Lubbock? Tragic. That goes for both questions. Most gay men here work at the mall and just wait until they can drink at the club on the weekend. There is very little drive in the gay community. They have no knowledge of what it was to be gay before 1990. They grew up in a world that always had Will and Grace, and typically their greatest stress over being gay is their parents. Now that being gay has become trendy, they rarely lose friends, and if anything they perhaps gain them. Even in Lubbock, girls want to have a 'gay best friend,' though they may feel the only involvement their gay friend should have in a wedding is planning one.




"As far as gay sex in Lubbock, I honestly have had very little. I had never hooked up at a club, though that may change. It seems that people are either complete sluts or in committed relationships. Gay men in Lubbock don’t just love drama, they embrace and cultivate it; without it their lives would be devoid of meaning. Of course this is in their minds, and they could change this if they wanted, but they don’t."




"The gay community in Lubbock centers mostly around Tech. There really isn't any place for persons of an older age to go without the loud music. A nice quiet piano type bar would be great. Only problem is that so many of the "older" gays are still closeted. I feel they need to get over it and enjoy life! The younger [gays] that are not afraid to be gay are great. I enjoy talking with them. The older ones that are afraid to come out of their closets need to just get over themselves and enjoy life. I do!"



 
"The gay community??? Years ago, I had a gay friend here in Lubbock, who was getting ready to turn 30--he calls me all upset and tells me that he is now "fossilized" as far as the gay community here is concerned. I don't miss the lubbock gay life---the people who were in that life with me are now either dead or have moved away."




"The gay community in Lubbock sucks! Big time. The majority of the community in this city is of the "club kid" persuasion. There are few respectable gays, with careers, or at least goals. They are almost all vapid, boring and slutty! I used to be one, for a minute. I don't see any positive gay influence in this city, at least not on a large scale."




"Before I moved to Lubbock, I had relationships with only 2 other women. Being in Lubbock, the women have greatly outnumbered the men. The men in Lubbock have almost all been one night stands or fuck buddies. If I hadn't met my fiancé here, I would most likely have ended up a fully practicing lesbian."




"The gay community here (and as I've been told, mostly everywhere) is very shallow. If you arent the right age, height, weight, and race then you're worthless. You MIGHT be able to substitute money for one of those and get by. You MIGHT be able to substitute cock size and get by. And of those that are acceptable 90% or better just want to get off and go. Few people in my experience want a relationship with any level of commitment. If you are lucky you might find a guy willing to commit to purchasing the condoms/lube. Dont hold your breath tho. As for the activity, well, its bustling. Tops are in high demand. Bottoms are abundant. If you arent interested in sex you're a tease."




"They need to be more liberal, less repressed, more easy going, nicer, not so full of themselves, and open. I think that other homosexuals in Lubbock are okay and some (or alot) are nice, but they can be negative, sheltered, and extremely cliquish. They really need to be more proud of being gay! Also the trannies, transgendered, and CD's need to be prouder and put themselves out there! Go TRANNIES! Woot Woot!"




"Cliqu[ish]. Repressed. Not celebrated. Enclosed. Frightened. Ridiculed. I think there is a pretty a good size of number of gay people in Lubbock, but I don't know for sure. Lubbock gays are also kinda snobby and stuck up. They have a "Cheers" aura or feeling.. i.e. everybody knows your name, you see them all the time, same old same old, boring boring boring. Its also hard to find nice or hot gay people in Lubbock, there are very few of them and they know it."




"I have had two relationships with women in Lubbock, the first with a bisexual hipster, the second with a Catholic closet case. I have maybe two lesbian friends here, so whenever I meet a gay or bisexual girl I get really excited. There are certain bars, stores, restaurants, networks of lesbians, but it’s all so hush-hush. The male gay community seems much more visible and politically active, although I’ve seen a lot more binge-drinking and random sex than organizing and creative activity from gay friends. I’ve also noticed a ridiculous degree of open misogyny among gay men I’ve met in Lubbock."




"What is the gay community? The phrase seems to refer to some mythical body of people that can't ever be known in its entirety. I define the gay community in Lubbock, therefore, according to that group I associate with---the only group that I can understand and have an experience with. That group is primarily gay men and bisexual women. I've never had any associations with lesbians in any city I've lived in. I see them at the clubs, of course, moving through the crowd in groups, not looking very friendly or sociable. Bisexual women have tended to be the craziest group of gays (I've noticed), but in Lubbock, not only do they seem totally cool about fucking around, there are a lot who are willing to fuck around. Who would've thought? And I lived in LA and near Chicago. The gay men are all very friendly and sweet, but amongst themselves they seem conflicted, unsatisfied, frustrated, and picky. They seem to abhor the high standards of beauty gay men generally have, yet fail to recognize or deal with their own very high standards. Monogamy has become an ornament relationships wear to achieve a kind of heterosexual respectability---few openly challenge the notion and ask whether or not it is ontologically suitable for homosexual relationships. Maybe they believe in the American Romantic Dream of finding The One and Living Happily Ever After."




"Just recently I was in my first orgy where I was fingered by a girl, but other than that I haven't done anything [with other women]. It seemed like people were very hesitant to talk about it when they knew I was involved. But I didn't mind one bit. "




"I think [gay people in Lubbock] are frivolous. They are “too cool” for everything. They remind me of sixth graders that can drink, and have sex. There is little maturity in their actions, and they have no thought in their heads to stand up for their rights. In many ways they are still in the closet. They like to act out and proud on the weekends, but during the week they can’t see out the closet for the clothes. That is of course unless they work at Abercrombie."